It's. Just. Sex.

All about sex and sexuality in your 20's. Ask your questions and I'll answer honestly. Judgement Free.

Anonymous asked: Any recomendations on sex toys? For guys? For girls?

It really depends on what you like, so it would be difficult for me to give advice about that.  However, I do know of a great website you can browse to see what looks enticing to you!

I’ll give you the link to the whole site, but on a specific page for the brand I prefer most.

Experiment all you want! There’s no right or wrong toy for anyone :)

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So sexual

Anonymous asked: A lot of my friends have lost their virginity in high school. I'm still a virgin and have my own beliefs about when and who to lose my virginity to. Some of it is religiously-based and some of it is based off of my own personal experiences and my comfort levels (I'm in my first serious relationship). I was just wondering if you think it's old-fashioned or "uptight" of me to still be a virgin and to not want to give it to someone until I'm in a long, committed relationship or until I'm married.

No. That is not uptight of you to want to wait for sex.  Our culture presses sex on us and makes it seem like a must-do, but don’t let that get in the way of your morals and values.  We also live in a culture that romanticizes war, but most of us know it isn’t okay to go around shooting entire towns with machine guns and grenades.  Think of sex like that.  Do what’s right for you without letting societal pressures put an unnecessary weight on your shoulders.

There’s someone out there for everyone, so while you may meet many guys or gals who mock your sexual path, you’ll also meet the ones who admire it.

Be confident and move at your own pace!


Anonymous asked: What do you think about that fine line between friendship and relationship? I think I'm falling for my best guy friend. I do not want to ruin our friendship, but isn't life all about taking risks? Have you had an experience like this?

I think you’re right in calling it a Fine Line, that’s for sure.  If you’re falling for your guy friend you sort of have to pick your poison.  Understand that you might just get what you want, but expect that the possibility also exists that your friendship may fizzle out if you’re not both on the same page.

You can pretend you don’t have feelings for him and then have to watch him flirt with other girls and potentially date another girl.  That might kind of stink for awhile.

Or you could tell him you have feelings for him and see what happens there! He may hug you and smooch you and tell you how relieved he is that you fessed up because he feels the same, OR he’ll explain to you all the reasons why it just wouldn’t work.

The bad news is that no matter what you do, you could potentially feel hurt by the situation.

The GOOD news is that you two could end up together OR you might temporarily ruin your current friendship…until the the dust settles and you reconnect :)

I’ve been through a similar situation and it ended with the two of us finally telling each other AFTER he moved to the other side of the country.  I wish I had been more honest about my feelings while he was around.  He was a real gem :)

Good luck!

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If you actually think physical attractiveness is important in a relationship, you are not shallow. To make a good relationship last you have to be physically and mentally attracted to the person. I am tired of seeing people being called shallow simply because they are looking for someone attractive to them, mentally and physically.

You are shallow when physical attractiveness is the only thing that keeps you two together.


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AHH I’M TRYING! But I work two jobs, have a few friends, am in a relationship, and want to take advantage of the summer weather! I’ll always be around though!

onefiftyynine asked: What's another way i can ask my fuck buddy to hang out? I usually stick with a simple "hey" and ask if he is free, but i wanted to switch it up a bit and make it more interesting

That’s a good idea.  Always starting with “hey” can get a little bland!

I would suggest being more yourself.  What do you want to say? Do you guys have any inside jokes?  You could start with the weather (I know, cliche), but why not? A simple, “It’s so nice out! Want to take a walk with me?” Or a flirty, “You know what’s perfect for a rainy day? Wink.”

If you do have inside jokes, bring them up when they cross your mind. Maybe you guys were noticing license plates one day and counting the different states, then one day you saw one you two hadn’t seen together.  Perfect texting opportunity: “I just spotted a Hawaii license plate!”

A lot of this depends on your relationship.  You refer to him as your fuck buddy, so I don’t know if you guys only flirt and fuck or if you hang out occasionally too.  Go with flow, don’t hold back, and see what happens!  You let him know he’s crossing your mind and his response will tell you the rest.

Let me know if that helps or not!

beachcowboy asked: Do girls like genital piercing's?

All girls? No.

Many girls? Absolutely!